Last month my mind was spaced out about the Madonna/Whore Complex post on tumblr. It was a posted photo by someone and true, it had caught my attention because the photo used a scene from Taylor Swift's popular music video to briefly explained the complex. So the moment my eyes caught a glimpse of M/W Complex, my mind wrapped up an envisage of a male dysfunction for supplanting a not so look innocent girlfriend from a pure and untouched lady. However, just recently, I discovered a lot from the M/W Complex (obviously from googling it) that made my ass burned up and ready to explode.
First thing, Madonna-Whore Complex revolves around the dichotomy of how some men can view women as two different personas. What are those? It's either sinner or saint/mother or whore! (retrieved from http://primal-page.com/madonna.htm). The moment my eyes passed through the above definition my brows knitted, my lips pouted and my face clouded out like all get out. Hey man under this complex, who the hell do you think had given you the power to view women in two distinct personas? It's like telling an untouched woman that she was destined to luckily have a sacred love because her virginity was intact the moment you met her. And importantly, she's a mother material. On the other hand, the impure woman deserves profane love because she's dirty for being used before she had met you and you man with that complex will just fuck her to the death with no feelings. PERIOD!
Yes dear, the whole me is raging at this very moment. Why? Well here's how, Madonna means good and pure, now the thing I can't grasp is that man under this complex will just have sex with her wife once in a blue moon because he views sex as something dirty that can only be done with whores but not with her wife! Plus, he respect her wife so much to the point that he don't even sees her as wife, but as a mother. So if that's the case, then what would happen if the wife likes having sex? Is that mean he will not go along with his wife? Or if he would then it's not a free will? Again! Sexual desire is a natural thing! He's keeping his wife away from a natural thing (sex deprivation) just because of his complex? Secondly, women are child bearers by nature, motherhood is one of her sacred functions. That makes her soul different from man. However, an outlook of a man under M/W Complex of seeing her wife as mother -- her only job is to take care of him and the children is inimical. Well actually, it's not really erroneous but don't you think he's boxing his wife from that position not doing anything else? That maybe the reason why her wife could not nurture her talents and skills in a certain field. I know it's a woman's choice if she will let her skills nurtured or not, but women are exceptionally different from one another. There are strong and independent women, however, there are inferior and vulnerable. But one thing that makes them similar, they forget their own self for the tender love of their dear ones. So how about when the wife is happen to be weak and a follower material in their marriage? Is that mean she will remain in silent and go with the flow of what her husband has been perpetuated?
On the other hand, whore means sexually promiscuous woman, one of over 200 phrases or words that disparage women in all times. So yes, the other woman of a man under the M/W Complex look at her as sexually aggressive and whoorish, and will continously fuck her with no strings attached, and end of the story! Okay, I understand there are females nowadays who enjoys poly-amorous relationship (having multiple partners with consent of both parties), however, what if the woman(whore) also in need of tender love? And again, I understand that it's still a woman's choice whether to continously have sex w/ the man under that complex or not, but you have to understand that sometimes even if a woman sets in her mind that they were just FuBu (fuck buddies), there's always a tendency that somehow it boost her self-esteem and she counted it as an attention, that every woman is longing for. So it could develop mutual feelings that possibly grow while doing the sexual activity regularly with the man. Then you'll probably yell this at her, "Then stop having sex with him, bitch!". Well, here's the catch, even if she despise the activity as long as her body likes it, sadly, she couldn't do something about it especially if something mutual already developed. Man would always say this if he was coined as promiscuous "Anong magagawa ko? Lalake lang ko.."(What can I do? I'm just a man..), well I think woman could said that excuse too, just to remind that the both sexes are equal when it comes to numerous matter. And another, that woman(whore) is capable of bearing child, too. So why box her in just being a whore in bedroom? Whether you like it or not she is capable of being a mother and she was once a madonna before she unfortunately met the man under the Madonna/Whore Complex.
To the God Almighty who's guiding my soul while writing this, please continuously help and guide me not to meet a man under this complex in the future. I love you :)
