It has been a couple of months since I last posted here. And it's pretty weird that I became too busy because of nonsense stuff. I have to admit that it made me happy for a very short time though. Oh yes, very short time but brings a lot of lessons to me and to other people, I think.
Changing.
These eight-letter word could create huge impact in someone's life. It's making me feel bad before when people were telling me that I am changing. It feels like the people who told me that were just giving me a benefit of a doubt that they don't like it and I am afraid, too, that it would affect my closeness to them. But that was before because now I am starting to realize that changing is the best way to escape from things that never been a part of my life before, in short, superficial happiness.
This is not sound good and maybe you are wondering what I am talking about here. Escaping as they say is not the solution of one's dilemma or misery, but if it's not then what is it? Perhaps, facing it could be the best move but if you really can't do that and you already analyze it and you foresee the future in a very vague way, then, why force yourself to face it when you know that it will end up more miserable than the current situation? You see, every people deserve happiness. Contrary to popular notion, happiness is not easy to find. And committing mistakes sometimes help us to reach those what they call happiness.
If you are not really happy of what you are at the moment then change for what you think could be the best for you.
One of the works of human is to dominate others by making them feel bad, creates another meaning of you, humiliate you in front of the potential new ones and laugh hard when you commit a single mistake.Yes, a single person could ruin your life. My favorite professor calls it SYMBOLIC MANSLAUGHTER and I believe that it is already part of our lives. It's funny thinking how people get happy seeing you down and in pain.
Words are so powerful that you cannot get over it in a very lightning speed. It leaves scars into your heart especially if it is too demeaning. Unfortunate individuals without a very nice persona calls it JOKE. They keep on demeaning and humiliating you and when they feel that they already made you bleed they will just simply say SORRY and tell it was only a joke.
Nice joke, isn't it? Yes, it's really discouraging and painful but life goes on. So, why listen to criticism when you know that it will only discourage you from doing better?
Now I find it annoying when someone is telling me that I've changed and it's not the old me or anything that goes like that. It makes me wonder why. Didn't they think first a gazillion time if they really know me before grasping me to stuff like this? And if I really change, then, what is that to them ? Seriously, THINK!
Most people that you call FRIENDS are those individuals whom you really don't know that much.
Ever wonder if that friend of yours know your real or full name? That's crazy? Yes. Is that important? Of course. How could you say that you guys are close enough when even the first stage of socializing with him/her hasn't penetrated yet?
In this generation, it is easy to mingle with strangers especially when beer and cigar get in the way.
BUT It's fun? Oh yes, it is! But how long would that last? Sooner you will realize that one of those strangers that you are now calling friend could ruin your life.
So lets be careful from every people we get to talk to. Never consider someone a friend if you haven't penetrated something essential yet and don't ever claim that you already know someone without really knowing the person.
Meaning-making is a community project and it can spread out easily. If you don't know anything in a certain issue or person, then, don't talk at all.
Never afraid to change because CHANGING is a journey which helps us discover our brand new us.
It fixes the wrong moves you have done before.
BUT changing is not possible if we will not push ourselves to the limit.
GIVING UP to something or even to someone is a loser's pathetic move. It symbolizes how lazy you are not to think about solutions how to hold on to the benefits and more importantly meaning of that thing and person could give or change in your life. GIVING UP is rather a selfish move, too, because you never think of someone's feeling when he/she found out that he/she was already given up. So lets avoid ourselves from GIVING UP scenarios and push ourselves to the 10000000 power of limits.
Changing.
These eight-letter word could create huge impact in someone's life. It's making me feel bad before when people were telling me that I am changing. It feels like the people who told me that were just giving me a benefit of a doubt that they don't like it and I am afraid, too, that it would affect my closeness to them. But that was before because now I am starting to realize that changing is the best way to escape from things that never been a part of my life before, in short, superficial happiness.
This is not sound good and maybe you are wondering what I am talking about here. Escaping as they say is not the solution of one's dilemma or misery, but if it's not then what is it? Perhaps, facing it could be the best move but if you really can't do that and you already analyze it and you foresee the future in a very vague way, then, why force yourself to face it when you know that it will end up more miserable than the current situation? You see, every people deserve happiness. Contrary to popular notion, happiness is not easy to find. And committing mistakes sometimes help us to reach those what they call happiness.
If you are not really happy of what you are at the moment then change for what you think could be the best for you.
One of the works of human is to dominate others by making them feel bad, creates another meaning of you, humiliate you in front of the potential new ones and laugh hard when you commit a single mistake.Yes, a single person could ruin your life. My favorite professor calls it SYMBOLIC MANSLAUGHTER and I believe that it is already part of our lives. It's funny thinking how people get happy seeing you down and in pain.
Words are so powerful that you cannot get over it in a very lightning speed. It leaves scars into your heart especially if it is too demeaning. Unfortunate individuals without a very nice persona calls it JOKE. They keep on demeaning and humiliating you and when they feel that they already made you bleed they will just simply say SORRY and tell it was only a joke.
Nice joke, isn't it? Yes, it's really discouraging and painful but life goes on. So, why listen to criticism when you know that it will only discourage you from doing better?
Now I find it annoying when someone is telling me that I've changed and it's not the old me or anything that goes like that. It makes me wonder why. Didn't they think first a gazillion time if they really know me before grasping me to stuff like this? And if I really change, then, what is that to them ? Seriously, THINK!
Most people that you call FRIENDS are those individuals whom you really don't know that much.
Ever wonder if that friend of yours know your real or full name? That's crazy? Yes. Is that important? Of course. How could you say that you guys are close enough when even the first stage of socializing with him/her hasn't penetrated yet?
In this generation, it is easy to mingle with strangers especially when beer and cigar get in the way.
BUT It's fun? Oh yes, it is! But how long would that last? Sooner you will realize that one of those strangers that you are now calling friend could ruin your life.
So lets be careful from every people we get to talk to. Never consider someone a friend if you haven't penetrated something essential yet and don't ever claim that you already know someone without really knowing the person.
Meaning-making is a community project and it can spread out easily. If you don't know anything in a certain issue or person, then, don't talk at all.
Never afraid to change because CHANGING is a journey which helps us discover our brand new us.
It fixes the wrong moves you have done before.
BUT changing is not possible if we will not push ourselves to the limit.
GIVING UP to something or even to someone is a loser's pathetic move. It symbolizes how lazy you are not to think about solutions how to hold on to the benefits and more importantly meaning of that thing and person could give or change in your life. GIVING UP is rather a selfish move, too, because you never think of someone's feeling when he/she found out that he/she was already given up. So lets avoid ourselves from GIVING UP scenarios and push ourselves to the 10000000 power of limits.
